POST WEDDING BLUES

After your marriage bliss, newlyweds (especially the brides) rarely acknowledge that they actually experience a period of letdown following the excitement of your recently concluded wedding. It was your most awaited moment and now, it’s over. This feeling is actually called post wedding blues. It was that you were used to feel exhausted (yet fulfilled) during your preparations and now, it was all over. You were somewhat lost and is asking for direction where to go next.

The feeling needs to be acknowledged and here are few things that will help you address it:

1.       Stop, look & listen. Your marriage is not just all about your wedding. It is but a part of the whole picture. It just made things official. Your task, was not just the wedding, but the entire marriage. Shift your attention on knowing your spouse more for example so as to make the marriage work best.

2.       You have company. Understand that you are not the only person on over 7 billion population of the world who experienced the same. Give yourself a tap on the back and say hey, I did a great job! Stand and be proud of your accomplishments on the wedding and how you’ll become a better spouse.

3.       You are very much valued. Your wedding (or your marriage), and on how they transpire does not define you as a person. Be it known that there is no such thing as a PERFECT wedding. Do not linger on things wherein you think that you could have done better. They happened because of only one reason: it is because that’s what it really is.

4.       Remember your accomplishments that put you on where you are now. Your savings on getting cheaper flower sets? Your wedding cake that was almost a disaster but you phoned your carpenter to fix the base? Your best friend who attended your wedding despite of her tight schedule? Your family who barely gather united but were all present on your big day? And a lot more. You did a good job but actually, your negative thoughts are over riding them. DON’T!

5.       Hold your crystal ball and look at the future. How will I design our living room? Whats the color of my bed sheet? What will be our first pet together? What will be the name of our baby? Do I want my eldest to be girl or boy? How much weight are we really going to gain in the next 5 years?

6.       Travel together. Try to visit a new place together. Doesn’t actually need to be out of country. A simple place where you will find solitude to seek peace and contentment on your newfound source of joy.

7.       It will pass. Be convinced that everything goes. Time will pass and you will surely overcome the blues. The earlier you make yourself believe that it’s normal, the earlier your blues will be blown to the air. Acceptance is the key. Acknowledge, accept, move on.

8.       Seek professional help. And if things really go south, consult a counselor. We do have our own unique ways of resolve and this is one of those.

Your blues are normal. But again, don’t ignore it. Remember, you are all set to start a new chapter and you don’t want to start on the wrong foot. Lift your marriage to our great omnipotent and all will be fine.