WHAT'S NEXT AFTER YOUR WEDDING

Breath in, breath out. Your day is over and now, youre back to your new reality; your married life. Its pretty normal to like dream of the wedding still but, you have a lot on your plate to think of. Believe it or not, most of the time, newlyweds end up with debts after the wedding. Suppliers who gave you a credit term for your payment. But relax, this is not a reason to panic. Remember: you now have a better half to split the expenses with (grins)!

Being married requires two individuals to be mutually agreeing on almost everything. Agreeing means at least, being one in every decision making process. Being together on facing on the consequences of what may transpire. And more importantly, at the end of the day, you both have accepted each other’s differences.

Arguments, even on your first year is inevitable. Sometimes, it takes time for everything to sink in. Here are some tips for you to ponder upon:

1.       Think of your better half’s best trait. If you think you know your husband/wife already, you are so wrong. There are many things that you’ll know after your marriage. From snoring to smelly socks, things may get worse. Remind yourself on things where he/she is good at. Instead of thinking of the problem, make yourself busy on the solution. And gradually, apply those.

2.       Divide and conquer. Come with an agreement with your spouse regarding household chores. This is where you both need to compliment with each other. You should work as a team. Assign the tasks and determine who’s in charge so you both will have a sense of responsibility.

3.       Work on a short term & long term plan. Having a detailed plan is a critical ingredient of a successful marriage. Sit and find time to discuss the blueprint of your plan. You may still be on your honeymoon stage but as early as that, you should know where you both are heading in the future.

4.       Be patient. As I said, you will discover a lot of things. Things that are even worse on what you might have imagined. Be patient. Be ready to effect change. Be sensitive on what your spouse will say. He/she is already an extension of yourself so give each other time to make the necessary adjustment. Well of course, not too long though.

5.       Express yourself. This is your chance to get real. Do not hide your emotions and or feelings. Say it. This will make your partner know his/her limits. This will also help your spouse understand you better. Be open.

6.       Settle the disputes, on or before bedtime. As they say, don’t let a day pass. Find a way deal with misunderstandings promptly. Delaying things will only create a wider gap between you both. Having them is normal. Knowing how to deal with each of them matters. Remember; all BIG fights came from small ones who weren’t addressed properly.

7.       A happy wife is a happy marriage. Always make yourself available for her. Be on her side ALWAYS. Believe me, this works!

Every marriage will have a bump. There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Understand the fact that your marriage is not an exemption. As early as your honeymoon stage, you might have those doubts. Hold on tight. Remember that God blessed your union and He will never allow anything that is irrelevant. Your love for each other shall overcome any trial. This is just the beginning. You’ve got a lifetime more to go.